What I'd like to extract are Dan Pink's points of comparing extrinsic motivators (money, promotions, favors, external rewards) vs intrinsic motivators (making a difference, gaining knowledge, serving others, doing what you enjoy, internal rewards). As we heard in the video, intrinsic motivators blow extrinsic ones out of the water in most cases. Now think of the goals you have for yourself and ask yourself, why. Why do you want your goal? It requires complete honesty, and if you are, you may find the root as to why you aren't accomplishing goals. Let's take a common goal - exercise. Many attempt motivate themselves with:
Being able to eat whatever we want
For some these work, but I would bet many times these goals aren't achieved over a long period of time. Imagine now replacing those reasons for establishing such a goal with intrinsic motivators:
Being around to see your family grow older
Can you see how the first set of goals are like lighter fluid? (Again, if you didn't read my last post, you may get confused here). You may get that boost from the idea of achieving one, but they aren't strong enough to conquer the warmness of your bed, the appeal of doing just about anything else, and avoiding the pain we put ourselves through in those torture chambers we call 'Gym'.
Instead, I'd like to get a little bit deeper into that second group of motivators, but broaden them out as things that I've found in my life to be extremely motivating. These things have given me the ability to keep my fire burning bright.
Though family can be a touchy subject, it can be deeply motivational. Check out this video featuring my wife, Becki, our daughter, Gwen, and I and you tell me how I couldn't be motivated to give them all I possibly have. Maya Angelou put it succinctly when she said, "I sustain myself with the love of family." Thinking about the sacrifices that Becki makes for me daily and the love that she shares, gives me new resolve to make sure I'm living in a way that I may honor her sacrifice.
Looking at Gwen's sleeping face, and pondering what life will throw at her, motivates me to better myself and learn so that I may be of some help as she grows and starts making decisions of her own. There are very few other things that make me want to find success than being able to give most of the fruits of that success to my family.
Now, I understand I may have alienated a group of people who don't have an ideal family situation, but the emphasis is really about the relationship. Relationships whether with a spouse, child, parent, sibling, friend, mentor, business partner, or any other can offer a similar resolve.
2) My Heavenly Father
Again, a topic that may have just driven a group of people away from the rest of this article. But it would be irresponsible of me to keep something that I believe has had the greatest impact on my life. The experiences in my life have fueled this belief and I am dedicated to living a life that would make my Heavenly Father happy. Now, it is not my intention to belittle any beliefs or ideas, but I believe there is a part of us, whether we like it or not, that accepts moral principles and senses truth. It is that portion of us, a conscious, an inner voice, whatever you'd like to call it, that holds unlimited power and potential, if we can learn to understand and give heed to it. Its the portion that allows us to act in this life, and not be controlled by circumstance.
3) The Desire to Be Great
The path to greatness lies through finding passion. Finding passion enlivens you in a way that you have greater energy, greater capacity, greater creativity, greater innovation, and you begin to even surprise yourself as to what you are able to accomplish. That's why this quest is so important to me, and why I hope to get this message out to others. Finding your passion is painted often as a waste of time, that following the path of education or secure careers, but I firmly believe that almost everything in life can be put on hold in order to find what your passion is. Doing this will allow everything else to fall into place.